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See you there,
Thanks for visiting At Home A Lot.
I’ve now moved and I’d love for you to visit me at my new home…..
See you there,
When practising Mindfulness you are in the here and now, you are not lost in thought, or being distracted or being overwhelmed by difficult emotions. It is a form of meditation where you are aware of your surroundings.
We spend a lot of our time being lost in thought, and a lot of those thoughts can be negative making us unhappy. Why do we spend so much time doing something that is potentially harmful to our mental well-being? It can take as little as 10 minutes per day to make an impact on our lives. Just 10 minutes of mindfulness to give our minds a rest and help it become more clear, to keep us in the present moment and to learn how to deal with the negativity and unhappiness in our lives.
When you are not acting in a mindfulness way your mind is trapped on categories drawn in the past and characterized by reliance on distinctions. You see things in a single perspective and are insensitive to context.
Do you frequently make silly mistakes, even at the most basic level, perhaps you forget to put your teabag in your cup when making a cup of tea? This is a state of mindlessness where you are letting your thoughts override your actions, when you are not in the present moment and thinking about what you are doing but relying on past routine.
People who are not mindful get trapped by their past thoughts and emotions and find it difficult to move on. They are either thinking about the past or the future so much that they forget about the present. You need to be in the present more for a healthier way of dealing with past and future emotions.
When you are mindful you are situated in the present and are sensitive to context and perspective. You are guided by rules and routine but not governed by them. You will experience engagement. It is a fact that most of our suffering, both psychological and physical is a direct or indirect effect of mindlessness.
By challenging mindlessness we can become more aware of the present and change the way we react to social and cultural cues.We can change ingrained behaviours that sap health, creativity, optimism and vitality from our lives.
You need to start with yourself. Ask yourself how people see you and then how you see yourself. Then challenge the differences. Work out exactly what is most important to you in your life right now, write a list, then whittle it down. Once you are more aware of who you are and what you want you can begin to become more mindful.
To practice mindfulness you need to spend more time in the present, in the here and now. Stop letting thoughts and worries control the way you behave. The more you think about something the more worrying it becomes. It’s like a toothache, your tooth hurts and you become aware of it, so you think about it more, then you rub your poorly tooth with your tongue and there it is again, the pain. It hurts, so you think about it more and the more you think about it the more it hurts. It’s definitely not easy to stop thinking about it, or prodding it with your tongue, but if you become distracted by something else isn’t it a fact that it hurts less, or you forget that it hurts?
Mindfulness is like that, you know you have problems and worries but you have to spend a little time not letting them dominate your thoughts so you can forget about the pain they cause you for a while. You need only subtle shift in your thinking, your language and your expectations to begin to change ingrained behaviours.
In just 10 minutes a day you can begin to transform your life and learn to spend more time in the present. This is done by meditation, but don’t worry, you don’t have to get your carpet out and burn the incense. You don’t need to clear your mind and think of nothing. You don’t need to fill your mind with chanting . There is nothing wrong with these methods of meditation but most people find it really difficult, I know I do.
Mindfulness meditation means putting yourself in the present. You need to spend 10 minutes a day just being in the here and now. Do nothing for 10 minutes.Switch off your phone and any other distractions. Maybe go out and sit on a bench somewhere, or stand in the park. Then simply listen and observe and be in the present. Don’t think, don’t talk, don’t plan, don’t judge. Take in your surroundings. If you feel a thought coming up then accept then let it go. Witness your thoughts and emotions coming and going without judgement but with a relaxed calm mind. It’s not an easy thing to do, but just try it regularly and with time it should get easier.
Being more mindful means you can stop doing things governed by rules and routine and make less mistakes by being more aware of where you are and what you are doing. You will be able to change ingrained behaviours and learn how to deal with things differently. You will be able to challenge the limits that you assume are real and transform your life. You will have a greater sense of focus, calm and clarity in your life. All you have to do is spend some time in the present and understand that your thoughts do not control you because you can control them.
If you are interested in finding out more about Mindfulness there are lots of books to choose from.Mindfulness for Health: A practical guide to relieving pain, reducing stress and restoring wellbeing
The title of this post should really be what I’ve been listening to lately, but I do love my audio books. In this post I’ll include links to both Audio and Book versions.
84-year-old Florence has fallen in her flat at Cherry Tree Home for the Elderly. As she waits to be rescued, she considers the charming new resident who looks exactly like a man she once knew – a man who died sixty years ago. His arrival has stirred distant memories she and Elsie thought they’d laid to rest. Lying prone in the front room, Florence wonders if a terrible secret from her past is about to come to light …
I absolutely loved this book and didn’t want to put it down. The characters are beautifully described and the story gently told. There are twists and turns, some of them easy to work out, but the end still leaves you guessing a little. Can you work out what the third thing about Elsie is?
I love that even old people can have adventures, as well as skeletons in the closet. The story moved at a good pace despite the over use of flowery descriptions. There were so many things I read that I would love to quote…probably too many as I can’t remember any! But it didn’t distract from the story which had everything you need for a good read.
Maud Drennan – underpaid carer and unintentional psychic – is the latest in a long line of dogsbodies for the ancient, belligerent Cathal Flood. Yet despite her best efforts, Maud is drawn into the mysteries concealed in his filthy, once-grand home. She realises that something is changing: Cathal, and the junk-filled rooms, are opening up to her.
With only her agoraphobic landlady and a troop of sarcastic ghostly saints to help, Maud must uncover what lies beneath Cathal’s decades-old hostility, and the strange activities of the house itself. And if someone has hidden a secret there, how far will they go to ensure it remains buried?
Another story about an old person with secrets, I guess if anything it makes me feel younger 🙂
This is another great story if a little weird. The main character obviously has some sort of psychic gift, or she’s just a little bonkers. No matter, I found her guardians entertaining.
The story has some great twists and secrets to discover, and it’s another page turner. The old man has a certain charm despite him hiding it well. There were parts that made me laugh, some that made me tense and others that even made a lump in my throat.
Great read if you like something a little different from the normal thriller.
Newly married Natasha has the perfect house, a loving husband and a beautiful little girl called Emily. She’d have it all if it wasn’t for Jen, her husband’s ex-wife who just won’t leave them alone …
Then Natasha returns home one day to find her husband and Emily gone without trace. Desperate to get her daughter back, Natasha will do anything even if it means accepting an offer of help from Jen. But can she trust her? And do either of them really know the man they married?
This is a fast paced book with lots of twists and turns. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out who’s side you’re on. Then a certain character reveals their true colours which makes you wonder why any of the other characters have survived at all.
I really enjoyed the way the characters developed and the story line was strong. There was a couple of twists I really didn’t expect. The story flips from Now to Then and for a while you are not really sure of the relationship between the characters in the different time scales.
There were one or two things which I felt were a little far fetched but they added to the suspense and gave explanations as to why the characters acted the way they did.
I love to crochet, it’s so relaxing and I love it when something comes together and I can say I made this.
Last year I joined a CAL with Simply Crochet magazine and each month I learned a new stitch to make a block for a beautiful blanket.
The blanket came with two options, one was Stonewashed, the other Colour Crafter. I chose the colour crafter and it turned out like this.
Not only have I made a lovely, soft, cosy and colourful blanket, but I’ve learnt a lot of new stitches. Some of them I struggled with, but mostly it was straight forward.
Now for the good news, if you would like to try to can find the details over on the Simply Crochet Magazine site
There are even You Tube videos which can help you with the more trickier stitches. But it’s not as difficult as it looks. I still consider myself a beginner and I managed to make one.
If you fancy trying out Simply Crochet magazine please click the banner below for a great offer.
Mother’s Day 2019 is on March 31st.
Here is a comprehensive list of gifts to please all sorts of Mum’s. I’ve spent hours compiling this list for you and the links are all affiliate links. It will not cost you any extra to click through these links but if you go on to purchase something I will earn a few extra pennies for my new wheelchair fund. So, a big thank you from me x
Thorntons are a great place to start, you can have your chocolate personalised if you wish to make it extra special. Here are just 3 of the gifts available, two are under £10 so perfect for the kiddies to buy!
Cadburys offer some lovely selections especially for Mum, priced at £10, £20 and £30…perfect for every budget.
Looking for something a little different or special, then Pressy Box has literally hundreds of fabulous products to choose from. You’ll be sure to find something that your Mum would love. Here are a small pick of my favourites.
I love candles, they add atmosphere as well as a beautiful scent to your home. I could have a hundred candles and it still wouldn’t be enough. Candles Direct are the place to go for all things candle and they have some great prices too.
You Can’t beat a look around Etsy if you want to find something really special for your Mum, from handmade to personalised and a whole lot more.
John Lewis have a lovely selection of gifts, including things you wouldn’t normally think of.
How about sending Mum a gorgeous bunch of flowers through the post. You can even add chocolates or teddy bears as well as other gifts and cards.
I hope you have enjoyed my list and found it useful. Let me know in the comments what you would like to buy your Mum for Mother’s Day, or what you would like to receive yourself.
Do you like finding out more about celebrities, hearing about the real person? These audiobooks are Audibles latest offerings in celebrity Biographies and Memoirs.
By: Peter Slevin
Narrated by: Robin Miles
Length: 15 hrs and 33 mins
Release date: 18-08-15
Publisher: Audible Studios
An inspiring story of a modern American icon, here is the first comprehensive account of the life and times of Michelle Obama. With disciplined reporting and a storyteller’s eye for revealing detail, Peter Slevin follows Michelle to the White House from her working-class childhood on Chicago’s largely segregated South Side. He illuminates her tribulations at Princeton University and Harvard Law School during the racially charged 1980s and the dilemmas she faced in Chicago while building a high-powered career, raising a family, and helping a young community organizer named Barack Obama become president of the United States.
From the lessons she learned in Chicago to the messages she shares as one of the most recognizable women in the world, the story of this first lady is the story of America. Michelle Obama: A Life is a fresh and compelling view of a woman of unique achievement and purpose.
©2015 Peter Slevin (P)2015 Audible, Inc
By: Melanie Brown
Narrated by: Melanie Brown, Phoenix Chi Gulzar Brown, Andrea Brown, Zaraah Abrahams, Bruce Lester Johnson
Length: 11 hrs and 9 mins
Release date: 27-11-18
Publisher: Audible Studios
Please note that this audiobook contains explicit language and content some listeners may find distressing.
The memoir from the real woman behind the leopard print, for real women everywhere.
As one-fifth of the iconic Spice Girls and judge on X Factor and America’s Got Talent, Melanie Brown, aka Scary Spice, has been an international star since the age of 19. And yet there are sides of Mel that no one has ever seen or really known.
Brutally Honest is an exposé of the struggles and acute pain that lay behind the glamour and success. With deep personal insight, remarkable frankness and Melanie’s trademark Yorkshire humour, this audiobook removes the mask of fame and reveals the mother, wife and daughter behind the Spice Girl everyone thinks they know.
The audiobook edition features narration from Melanie, her daughter, Phoenix, and her mother, Andrea.
©2018 Melanie Brown and Louise Gannon (P)2018 Audible, Ltd
By: Robert Webb
Narrated by: Robert Webb
Length: 8 hrs and 52 mins
Release date: 29-08-17
Publisher: Audible Studios
Rules for Being a Man:
But Robert Webb has been wondering for some time now: are those rules actually any use? To anyone?
Looking back over his life, from schoolboy crushes (on girls and boys) to discovering the power of making people laugh (in the Cambridge Footlights with David Mitchell), and from losing his beloved mother to becoming a husband and father, Robert Webb considers the absurd expectations boys and men have thrust upon them at every stage of life. Hilarious and heartbreaking, How Not to Be a Boy explores the relationships that made Robert who he is as a man, the lessons we learn as sons and daughters, and the understanding that sometimes you aren’t the Luke Skywalker of your life – you’re actually Darth Vader.
By: Mary Killen, Giles Wood
Narrated by: Mary Killen, Giles Wood
Length: 6 hrs and 27 mins
Release date: 02-11-17
Publisher: Audible Studios
What is life for Gogglebox‘s Giles and Mary outside the willow-patterned cocoon?
Giles is a countryman who relishes solitude. His wife, Mary, thrives in company and enjoys frequent escapes to London.
After 30 years in a marriage of opposites, Giles and Mary have adapted to a life of domestic misunderstandings within comical misadventures.
In The Diary of Two Nobodies, you will have the unique opportunity to discover, first hand, what occurs when a man who sees himself as a cross between Mr Bean and Basil Fawlty shares his life with a woman who identifies closely with the Queen.
Accompanying this diary is a candid and amusing Audible Sessions interview with Giles and Mary, in which they discuss how they made it onto Gogglebox, what the most annoying things about each other are, and why ‘nutty’ is their go-to term of endearment.
This post contains affiliate links because I am an Audible affiliate. I’m also a huge fan of Audible and love receiving my new audio book every month for just £7.99 You can choose anything, I have a six volume set of Sherlock Holmes in my collection which would have cost nearly £70 if I were not a member.
Since I got sick my eyesight is troublesome. I’ve tried the opticians and have reading glasses, but although they help they don’t stop the tiredness I get in my eyes.
I would have to give up reading but since I discovered Audible I’ve devoured more books than I have done in ages. I love it! And the best thing is, I can carry on listening to my books while crocheting or even doing to the housework. You don’t have to put your book down to make a cup of tea, just take it with you in your ears.
If you join audible or buy a book from my list you’ll be helping me to add to my listening collection with no extra cost to you, so thank you in advance.
I love tea! I like coffee too, but tea is my go to drink and I find it so much more refreshing.
Tea is so versatile as you can find so many delicious flavours and drink it hot or cold. My personal favourite is Earl Gray but I love a good Breakfast Tea in the morning.
Twinings have such a wide variety of tea it’s hard to choose once you visit their site. Strong, weak, fruity, hot or cold you’ll definitely find something to tickle your taste buds.
Twinings also have some fabulous offers on for February, for instance you can get 10% if you are a New Customer with code NEW10
Why not give yourself a boost with some of their new Superblends. for example:
Defence. A Citrus and Ginger Flavoured Herbal Infusion with Green Tea, Echinacea Root and added Vitamin C.
Energise. A Mandarin and Apple Flavoured Green Tea with Guarana and added Vitamin B6.
Turmeric. An Orange Flavoured Infusion with Turmeric and Star Anise.
Focus. Mango and Pineapple Flavoured Herbal Infusion with Ginseng Root and added Vitamin B6.
Digest. Apple Flavoured Herbal Infusion with Spearmint, Rooibos and Baobab.
Twinings Cold Infuse gives you a delicious taste to liven up your water without any of the hassle. The infusers are easy to use: just drop one of the infusion bags into a water bottle (500ml), wait for 5 minutes – stirring or shaking occasionally – and enjoy!
Want to liven up your water? Why not try dropping a cold infusion bag into sparkling water for a healthy, sugar-free alternative to fizzy drinks.
Designed to drop into your reusable water bottle, Cold Infuse is the perfect aid to helping you drink more water throughout the day, wherever you are. Simply drop, leave, shake and enjoy!
Valentines day is February 14th and Twinings have some fabulous gifts to choose from.
The Roses Are Red giftbag is the perfect gift for any tea lover and is packed full of flavour from strong breakfast tea to the decadent truffles packed with fun popping candy, delighting your taste buds. There is also a keep cup, perfect for re-filling on the go and a stylish tea tidy.
Who wouldn’t love to be woken up with a cup of exquisite breakfast tea – lovingly made and accompanied by a little sweet treat.
This gift box includes:
If you are tempted I have one more offer for you, Free Delivery when you spend over £25 with code FDEL219
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